Big

No I'm not talking about Sex in the City's Big played by Chris Noth, it's the 1988 movie played by Tom Hanks. You know, the one where he makes a wish at a fair and wakes up in an adults body. He goes on to by a loft and fill it with a trampoline, pin ball machine, basketball hoop and rides around on his bike. I'm not entirely convinced this movie is fictional. The more I get invited into the lives of men, the more I believe that there actually this genie in a glass metal display case travelling the country, nay, the world disguising boys as men. We've all heard of Peter Pan Syndrome, but I think it goes beyond that.

My inspiration for this comes from my call the other night. It was a late call and I arrived shortly after 2 am. It was a Thursday night and the guy was just hanging out with his Irish room mate jamming in the basement. My client, Josh, was on the guitar and definitely had some musical talent, but the roomie, on the drums was obviously just along for the ride. He was less talented. Ha ha. But everyone was having fun! It was hilarious. They wanted me on vocals but I told them if he was hiring me for my musical talent, he was going to want his money back. I survey the room, it's at the tail end of being renovated (by Josh) the amp is sitting on the pool table, next to the foooze ball table. Across from the drum set is a basketball hoop thing that automatically rolls the ball back to you. And of course there was the flat screen and various gaming systems. Now I've seen some man caves in my day, but none put together with the same level of seriousness as this one. They didn't give a fuck what it looked like. Entertainment purposes only. And the fact that they paid a woman to be there only made me respect them more.

This is what they don't tell you in high school. For most teens the only examples of adults they see are their parents. Responsibility laden, stressed out, saddled with children; a good life maybe, but I don't think its the immediate goals of the majority of young adults. I realised this shortly after I graduated, but when you're in your 20's you're FREE! It is the most responsibility free you are ever going to get (well at least until retirement, and who wants to think about that!) In your 20's money might be tight, but you can live whatever kind of life you want! Especially if your single. Wanna go camping, phone a friend. Wanna smoke some weed, do it. Get a hobby. Become an escort. Whatever. Do what you want. Follow your bliss. Now’s your chance. Do it before you spawn or, god forbid, get a real job. I think Josh should go to schools and give motivational speeches. Suicide rates would drop  It doesn't just get better for gays (as Dan Savage says) it gets better for everyone. Fuck your classmates. Move out of your parents. Pick your life.