Besitos

Where did you learn how to kiss? Did your parents kiss in front of you? Mine never did. And I think that's why after ten years of a 'happy' marriage, I wasn't surprised at all when they told me they were getting a divorce. I think I learned how to kiss by watching TV. I wonder where other people learned how to kiss, because most people are decent to great kissers, but some people aren't. It's interesting. I, myself, am a lip kisser. I will either kiss the top lip or the bottom lip, and in return, my top lip or bottom lip will be kissed. Insert tongue as necessary. But not all people are like that. 

In my business and in my personal life, I have come across a lot of different types of kissers. Mostly in my business life though. Some people kiss without moving their lips. I've had a client attach his lips to mine, hold them still, and wiggle his tongue around. Like guppies or something. I've had clients make their mouth into an O and rotated their lips on top of mine. Then there is just the invasive tongue, where his lips will plant on top of my lips, or totally cover my whole mouth, then go for the tonsils. I'm not opposed to tongue. I like a good tongue, but it's got to be reciprocal and gentle!

How are those good kisses? I don't understand. It's just weird. The first kiss between Jake and I was a Brazilian kiss (I'm sure this is not how Brazilians kiss, but this is what we were told) lips aren't even involved, just a rubbing of the tongues. He had to try it. It ended up with both of us laughing, then kissing properly.  I find, both professionally and personally, I will kiss them as they kiss me, but like I say, the lip kissing lip technique, I think that's how it should be done.

I did have a boyfriend, back in the day (I'd like to stress that this was a long time ago) and I was warned about dating him, because he had a reputation for being a bad kisser. He was a cool guy though, we'll get past it, no big deal. I trained him how to kiss. It was never something that was discussed, but I would straddle him in bed, and we would make out. He was one of those hoover, forceful tongue guys. Every time his kisses got too intense, I'd pull away. We'd practice lots! Ha Ha. Over time he became a very good kisser. He got married a little while later, and I asked his wife, if he was a good kisser and she confirmed. Another satisfied customer!

Kissing is funny. I find it to be way more intimate than sex. You can slow it right down, you can push into it, you can tease with it. You can have sloppy wet lipped kisses, and tight little, polite little kisses. The hottest kiss I've ever seen on TV was from the movie Drive. If you've seen the movie, you know the one I'm talking about. The elevator scene. I tried to find a clip for it, but everything I could find either cut the kiss too short, or extended the scene too long. The way that he touches that spot between her belly button, and her hip bone, right before he leans into the kiss, it's like you can feel it from the audience. That's such an intense spot on a woman. If a man touches that spot on me, with the right kind of intensity, I'll go weak in the knees, for sure. Such butterflies. Then the way he leans into it, and moves around her while he's kissing her, it's like he's harnessing all of his energy to put into this kiss, to send into her. He presses up to her, he presses his chest against her breasts, pushing them up a little, pushing the air out of her lungs a little; as a woman, the way that that feels, it's just so sexy. It's like the man is saying with his whole body, "I want you," but he's not being crude or inappropriate about it.